Grief / Issues

Different people respond differently to grief or issues.

One woman might focus all of her jealous insecurities on the ex-girlfriend of her lover. The woman I have in mind harbored hatred in her heart for someone she had never even met, creating wildly unreasonable scenarios in her mind to justify and spread her hate. Realistically, it is sad that she is so self-loathing that she has to deal with her issues in this way.

I witnessed a woman attack two people she had never met last night- a man who I believe set her off, and a woman who was an innocent bystander. This poor twenty-something drunk woman obviously had suffered greatly as a victim and was taking her issues out on others that night...

My friend is finally leaving her abusive husband of twelve years- and he is acting to defame her and damage all he might have access to before she is gone.

We all act out when we are grieved. It is easy to fall into the trap of not caring about the healthy way to heal from our hurts, whether it be victimization, a death in the family, or an ending relationship. People are self-centered and when they are upset, their own pain is all they can see or feel.

Please, people- get some counseling! This is what psychologists are for: to help us through our issues and to make healthier choices for ourselves and those we affect. There is no shame in calling on an outsider to get help to work though serious issues that could affect our thinking and beliefs for the rest of our lives if we don't deal with them. We also tend to fall into self-destructive patterns. Emotional wounds don't heal like physical wounds- we have to work through our issues and come out better for it. It takes work and an open mind.

We all grieve and have issues. I deal with mine by writing, crying, and yes, I do go to counseling. It does help.

HOPE